Autumn Glory

I resonate with Brad’s post on the falling of Fall. I also like the snowflaky things tumbling down the page following the cursor.

writing to freedom

Autumn GloryAutumn, colors, poetry

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walking down the street

shimmering colors glowing

my soul is replete

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We had our last hurrah of colors last week. This was taken on a delightful walk in Fayetteville’s downtown. I’m glad to have a few pictures to treasure those glowing colors as we head into winter, cold weather and barren trees. Enjoy!

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Learning the basics of WordPress.

 

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“La Artista Invisible” (my wife Andrea at work)

I’m renovating this site and blog. I plan to add a podcast, and other enjoyable and useful elements.

I’ve quickly discovered that my quick-start approach has me  up in the air well enough, though in a plane that has quite a few features that are baffling to me. This makes not for fun flying.

Thankfully, I’m not actually up in a plane. I’ve found flying machines impossible to park in the sky whilst getting up to speed with the manual.

C-ing (seeing) Communication

November 18, 2016

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My wife and I are back from a four-day trip to CA to visit her mom, who is in her final chapter, maybe paragraphs, of life. What follows is a slightly edited version of notes I dictated this morning to my phone. After taking out the obvious goofy translations, I decided to post this to this blog, because, why not? No one need read it, but one can if it’s here, so, here it is. Editing is by far the most challenging aspect of writing for me (probably living, too!). If I publish a book or an essay, I’ll invest time in concision. For now, I’m simply going to share what I’m doing in this less-refined way, and see how that goes.

Among other things, I’m getting back to exploring, examining, reviewing, and thinking about communication. I’m renewing my R&D of Clarifying, Caring, Curious Communicating (“C-ing Communicating.” There are many other C words that go well before ‘communicating’, so I’m experimenting with simply calling it “C-ing –pronounced “seeing”– Communicating or Communication.” More later on that). I’m exploring how I can, how we can communicate better, and how that can foster flourishing and enjoyment for all of us.

One important element is learning to communicate using those “C” qualities with myself, that is, between the various points of view and patterns in this particular brain-mind-body. There is seemingly one particular, conscious, verbal aspect of mind that wants to call itself “I.” And the other Pods (Parts of Dave) appear to be fine with that. I applied that self-talk this morning as my “jackal” element (cf. NVC, which uses a Jackal to stand for that part of us which is aggressive, critical, impatient, etc.) was quite agitated about me not getting into gear. “We” had a “conversation” out loud, which led me eventually to prioritize this researching, writing and sharing about communication, in front of getting into the weekly review of getting things done, and getting things organized.

One of the essential elements of that conversation was to understand what Jackal was saying, feeling, and wanting. I ended up putting the clerical work that he was agitated about after this communication R&D, and at the same time “he” seemed fine about that, because he knows I’ll get to the processing of papers and other matters afterward with renewed enthusiasm.

This R&D process can be seemingly messy, which is to say that when one explores things that are not set in stone or completely understood, which many things are, especially in the realm of psychology and communication and wiggly subjects like that, there is no clear map. That was a long sentence.

So, communicating, and learning about communicating, is a practice, a skill that builds on itself, and that we learn to do over time, along with practicing with other people, and listening and being curious about ourselves.

So what am I doing? I’m learning about, researching, and applying, all that I reasonably can about communicating, influence, compliance, negotiation, and related matters. I’m sharing what I find in person, and with as widespread as I reasonably can. Or unreasonably can. May we have clarifying, caring, curious conversations: “C-ing communication.”

Curious Connecting Communication

I continue my R&D of curious, connecting, candid, clear, caring communication. I enjoy alliteration, and in this case, the words describe some of  the most effective ways of communicating. I’m currently reviewing my Kindle notebook of highlighted passages and my own notes from the book Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most.

I feel fortunate to have discovered this book, which springs from the  same group of people that created the book Getting to Yes and related titles. I read that book a couple of times along the way, and found it very practical and valuable in the sometimes-tricky business of communicating. I’m finding Difficult Conversations even more helpful on a daily basis. I’m also experiencing, as with ideas and practices from Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Rosenberg), that actually communicating well and enjoyably can be challenging, and takes practice. And there are lots of opportunities to practice. May your communicating be creative and congenial.

Plane Crazy

Colorful communicating companions in Costa Rica

Brevity

Brevity | ‘brevədēnoun

Concise and exact use of words in writing or speech.

• shortness of time: the brevity of human life.

PHRASES: 

Brevity is the soul of wit —proverb 

i.e. the essence of a witty statement lies in its concise wording and delivery.[from Shakespeare’s Hamlet ii. ii. 90.]

ORIGIN:

 late 15th cent.: from Old French brievete, from Latin brevitas, from brevis brief.

–From the dictionary on my MacBook: Version 2.2.1 (178)

The “Iterate Fast and Release Often” Approach

I was just listening to Rolf Potts and Tim Ferriss talking about their agonizing processes of writing, and it started me wondering, “Might I actually write something right now and share it, which is to say, put it online at the least and let others read it or not read as they like?” Why not? So, here I am, writing, no? Yes. I read something yesterday that probably applies here, to writing in general maybe, though it was originally directed to businesses. Reid Hoffman, the founder of LinkedIn, said,

“If you are not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you’ve launched too late.”

Read more: http://www.businessinsider.com/the-iterate-fast-and-release-often-philosophy-of-entrepreneurship-2009-11#ixzz3bXv1CjWW

Then another idea came into mind: open up GarageBand and start recording songs I’ve written, and do the same thing–publish them, make them available for others to hear. Why not? Might be fun, satisfying, and who knows? Others might enjoy and otherwise benefit from something I create. Ditto for interviews, videos, and whatever other kinds of expressions this one might generate. So, look, ma, I renewed writing with the intention of sharing the ideas. And now, I’m going to schedule a Pomodoro for making music, specifically for getting the wheels turning again on recording to share.

IMG_2113And then I did just that. It had been months and years since I’ve done any recording, so there was some initial befuddlement and frustration. I persisted, and started recording. Then I took a break from that and resumed my actual garage streamlining project. I’ll probably go back and forth.

Simply Begin Simply

I tried to add a screen shot to this post of the driving route from my home in Fayetteville, Arkansas to Deadhorse Airport on the northern coast of Alaska. 4,138 miles in 76 hours. The screen shot using Grab on my MacBook is a tiff file. WordPress won’t accept that image. Sometimes beginning simply gets complicated. My shoulders are tightened with tension and getting really close to my ears. Ah ha.